Flirting through gentle crosses is one of the most refined ways to show someone you’re interested. But if not done properly, it may take the incorrect message.

Whether it’s “accidentally” brushing against your girlfriend’s arm or hand throughout talk, grazing them on the knees when they are sitting next to you, or gently playing with their mane, this kind of relaxed feel is flirty and hints at interest. ” Quiet details are a strong way to show interest”, says Wale Okerayi, Lmhc Lpc, a qualified mental health counsellor in New York and Texas. ” A light touch on the arm or hand is a great start, but can easily escalate”.

Another casual body language gesture that can signify flirting is gently grazing their thigh or leg. ” This is a more intimate and seductive move”, explains Brown. ” Their leg is more exposed than their arm, so it’s a good place to play with touch”.

If someone is interested in you, they may also subconsciously play with your hair or lips while talking. They might even bite a side of their lip or lick their lips while listening to you talk.